5 Myths about fighting in your relationship
❌ 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 #𝟭 - 𝗙𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘂𝗽𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲
✅ 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁: Actually, not resolving fights or getting stuck in the cycle of endless fights and not knowing how to fight well are the reasons that lead to breakups and divorce.
The #2 reason for divorce in the U.S. is "too much fighting" which is a sign of couples not knowing how to resolve fights.
❌ 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 #𝟮 - 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁
✅ 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁: When you compromise you will feel resentful towards yourself and your partner. With time, your resentments will turn into anger, and eventually, you will explode; it's like putting a timer on a bomb. It's better for you and your health if you learn how to fight well.
❌ 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 #𝟯 - 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀
✅ 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁: When two people come together into a relationship, they bring their own values and ideas, needs, and hurts from the past, disagreements will happen. Stop the fantasy that you can avoid fights and instead learn how to fight well.
❌ 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 #𝟰 - 𝗙𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽
✅ 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁: If by "fighting" you mean yelling, name-calling, breaking objects, punching walls, and getting physical, those are signs of an unhealthy relationship. If you or your partner engage in physical violence you need to strongly consider ending the relationship for your own safety.
There is another way to fight well that strengthens your relationship and creates more connection, intimacy, and safety, and is important for building a long-lasting relationship.
❌ 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 #𝟱 - 𝗔𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂
✅ 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁: This is often the result of your mind projecting a past hurt which starts you off on the defensive. So you have your gloves on before the conversation even starts. Most times, your partner is not your enemy and does not mean to be vindictive, they are lashing out from a place of hurt that has nothing to do with you. So if neither one of you is being empathic, caring, and respectful towards the other, it means you are in the animal part of your brain and you need time/space from your partner to calm down.
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